COVENANT, COVERING and CONTROL
Covenant: a binding agreement between two unequal parties. It has the effect of being exclusive.
The covenant offers benefits (blessings), but to leave or challenge it invokes censure (curses).
A covenant is entered into by swearing an oath. It is a spiritual transaction in which a higher power is invoked.
The only allowable covenant: marriage (Eph. 5:22-33).
Covering: the means by which the covenant is administered (controlled).
Biblically, covering is confined to marriage and is a question of God’s order; therefore it has a sexual component to it (1 Cor. 11:1-10).
Control versus Authority
Godly authority is strong and directive but not coercive. Godly authority is given directly by Christ, as in Ephesians 4:11-13. Godly leaders have the right to expect obedience: “Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you” (Heb. 13:17).
This kind of obedience is in the context of an environment in which mutual submission is practiced: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph. 5:21).
Covering is a means of coercion; sometimes it is the structure, sometimes it is a controlling individual. Both are wrong. Entering into a covering relationship is, effectively, a surrendering of your will to an inappropriate source, which has potentially dangerous consequences: emotional, psychological, and, most serious, spiritual.